My biggest hinderance is not time, but motivation and value

My biggest hinderance is not time, but motivation and value.

My grandmother, Eula Gordon used to say, “You make time for what is important to you.”

During this season of life, I have discovered the truth of this statement.

I have a list of things I have told myself I would do if I just had time.  Well, once I got set up to work from home, I cut an hour of travel out of my day as a bare minimum plus all the other distractions of working in an office.  I found out quickly that these projects were not getting done.  The list of all the things I wanted to get done if I had time where not being accomplished. 

So, the issue was not time but motivation and the value I placed on that given task.  The truth is that most of those things are just not that important to me, I just don’t value them that much, they might even bore me.  So even working from home during a pandemic I find myself not getting those things accomplished.

This holds true in relationships as well.  People who are not willing to invest in your friendship because of time, will find other things to fill the time if the relationship is not of great value to them. 

This can be hurtful to realize at a time like this, but the reality is that people who refused to invest in you before will find other things of more value than you during this time of isolation or crisis.  I have noticed that behavior of people does not really change.  

People who will not return a call, a text or even answer the phone during “normal times” will operate the same during the midst of a pandemic.

The issue is not time it is value.  The relationship is just not of great value.  Now is a good time to evaluate relationships.  Who are the people who are most important to you?  Who are the people that you seem to always do all the giving and never receive anything in return?  Who are the people that encourage and inspire you?  

I have made up my mind that I am going to spend this time focusing on those in my life that mean the most to me and that I am of value to them.

Because Granny was right, “You make time for what is important to you.”